As a trainer / mentor and coach I come across this question quite often. In fact I have found that people who has failed at least once and failed big has much bigger chance of success in life.
I always say that “The Size of Your Failure will Define the Size of Your Success” & my 2nd mantra “ Faily early and fail Big” If you haven’t failed then you haven’t tried enough, or you are operating from your comfort zone, or the size of your goal / vision is very small. Most of us who has not failed, possibly are operating from safety zone. So don’t be afraid to fail.. If you are on a mission for cleanliness, be ready to get your dress dirty. I remember a famous Ad tag line”Daag Achhe Hain” Only caution - the stain should be limited to your dress only not on your character. Otherwise “Kapde to gande Honge hi”
A child can not learn walking without falling. But a child never feel bad about falling, neither people discourage him. Rather people keep on encouraging. But the picture get change the moment we attain our childhood. The same set of people who used to encourage us even after our repeated failure to take the first baby step, start criticizing us the for smallest failure. And slowly and gradually we become afraid to take risk and do new things for fear of failure. Failure become stigma, whereas failure is the first sign of success - means you are trying to do something you haven’t done earlier. without which you neither get success nor get failure.
If your goal big, chances are there that your failure will also Big. But if you get disappointed at the first sign of failure, that would be like accepting defeat. The power of your passion will be tested only when you fail, not when you pass at the first attempt. Thomas Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb.
Failing doesn’t matter. What is important is that what you do with your failure. I have been interview guide for corporate level for quite some time being in panel for over 1000 interview. I have seen for senior positions in corporate, candidate who never had a major failure in life wouldn’t get selected - the selectors would like to know what did you do with your failure, how did you managed your emotion, what has been your attitude. They would like to know how strong you are, If misfortune strike, how are you going to behave, how are you going to take the organisation out of the crisis. For the top most level job in the corporate sector this is final question, which will set you apart. Otherwise all the candidates will be having degrees from the finest institution, massive experience, impressive success stories and track record. But the man form boys will be separated on the basis of the failure stories.
All these answer wouldn’t come from your success, the answers will come from your failure and what did you do about them. Whether you sit back at home being disheartened or your try with double enthusiasm. Observe a baby taking its early strep for motivation. It depends what lesson you take from your failure. Analyse your failure, dissect it threadbare. There are tools & techniques available. Get yourself a trainer / coach or a mentor. Having talent may not be enough particularly when you are fighting a pro. The legends like Roger Federer also hire service of personal coach even today. We take tuition for our class X exam. But unfortunately we do not take tuition or coaching for the bigger battle of our life where stakes are much higher. Many of us fail inspite of having talent, just because of not having proper guidance.
Your college education may not be enough for the battle of life. How many of us get the opportunity to use the learning of college life in real life apart from the subject matter expert like Doctors, lawyers etc. But even the subject matter experts need some extra inputs, some extra skill set to be successful in their respective domain. Here the exams are different. Its important to fail early since stakes are smaller.
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